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I am 20 years, I am in a very stable relationship and have been for over 2 years. We live together at home with my mum who is very supportive. I found out yesterday that I am pregnant after doing 2 ordinary tests and then 2 clear blue digital tests. The digital test said that I am 3+ weeks so in doctors terms I am 5+. The pregnancy was not planned and we were both surprised as I have very irregular periods (maybe 2 or up to 3 a year) and we use protection. Only myself and my partner know as we are waiting until the doctor confirms the pregnancy, we have an appointment later today.
I am absolutely terrified as we are not ready for a child. I always wanted to have a stable career, home and be married before having children however I also believe there is never a right time to have a baby and that pregnancy is a blessing especially after believing I would struggle to get pregnant. I am in my last year of training to be a beauty and holistic therapist and work part time in a salon, I’ve worked out that I will get to finish my studies well before the baby arrives. My boyfriend has a stable job with a decent salary, he is extremely hard working and would be a wonderful father. Despite this I know we would struggle financially and I don’t want to rely on family or benefits. Me and my partner agree that we couldn’t live with ourselves if we terminated the pregnancy and adoption isn’t an option for us. If I’m honest I also worry what everyone will think as I’m used to being the responsible and sensible one. I don’t know what’s more selfish having a termination or having a child knowing that I can’t give him/her everything they want.
Please share some of your experience with me if you are/were a young mother or are expecting.
Thank you. H x

I am more or less exactly the same boat as you. I am the same age, going on 21 but the advantage is I have my own place with my parter and his daughter from a previous relationship. I am also known as the sensible and smart one of the whole family and though they were shocked, they were happy for me.
We didn’t and still don’t have lots of money but nevertheless I am now just over 34 weeks pregnant and expecting a baby boy!
Don’t worry yourself stupid when it comes to money situations or don’t bother reading statistics when it comes to the average mother spending hundreds or thousands of pounds. It’s a load of rubbish. If you are careful and get only the things you need, and a lot you can get second hand from car boot sales or ebay or just generally look for cheaper shops, or shops that have sales. There is no point going into mothercare (UK shop) and spending around £30 on something like a new born sleeping bag, when you can get one in a big Tesco’s store or Asda’s store for less than half the price, but still at the same tog (warmth).
Also if you have any friends of family that offer old baby clothes etc that are in good condition, don’t turn them down! Not to mention, if your mum is anything like mine you will have a LOT of gifts, clothes etc from her throughout pregnancy. My mum just couldn’t/still can’t help herself when she looks at baby things. Even though she has been through it twice with my older sister, she still acts like it’s her first grand child.

Don’t forget babies grow out of things so quickly so there is no need to spend a fortune on one when it comes to clothes and it’s not like they will grow up remembering how much you spent on them. Even think about breast feeding for a long as possible. It’s free and to top it off it’s the best for you and baby anyway!
Don’t buy anything until you gone past the 12 week stage (at least – I waited until I found out the sex) and then start to buy things gradually and slowly but by all means, start to save now. It’s what I did and it definitely helped!
In the end of the day as long as you are there for the baby, when it cries and needs soothing, feeding etc and you give it the love and support you need then there is no need to worry too much.

Anything else, just send me an email. Will be glad to help :o)